Do you celebrate your dating anniversary after you get married? We do.
Yesterday marked 8 years Brad and I have been together as a couple. I know a lot of people say to let go of your dating anniversary after you get married but I just don’t feel that way.
For us, marriage has only been a 2 year process. 6 of those years were spent building a foundation for growth and understanding. One that I see has molded what our marriage is. When I met Brad I was 19 years old and he was 21 years old. Let that sink in. To me, it sounds stupidly absurd that I met the person I would share this life with when I was a teenager. However, I did. I think back to the people we were back then. Even though our core personas are the same, we are simply not the same people. We’re not college kids but full-fledged adults! Since 2008 we’ve really been growing up together.
I look back on those 6 years prior to our marriage and the many different life stages of becoming an adult we’ve hit. To be comfortable in who you are, you have to know who you are. We’ve discovered, rediscovered, and lost who we are. We’ve changed the paths of who we want to be, what we want to do, and how we want to do things relentlessly. We changed all these things until we knew what fit each of us. What was right for ourselves. I wouldn’t have wanted to go through that with anyone else. I kind of have to laugh at people that demand you have to be single to figure out who you are.
What I celebrate the most is how our relationship has fit perfectly in those times. It’s been formed and molded to set a foundation that would lead to our marriage. It’s been tested and pulled in all sorts of directions. The hardest time being a year of living long distance from each other. I can’t imagine having walked into marriage without those 6 glorious years on our back.
So yeah, for us our dating anniversary has become a day we cherish. While it’s a chapter we’ve closed it’s also a day we get to say, “Wow, look how far we’ve come.” For 8 years, I’ve loved someone from the depths of my heart. So we celebrate.
Regardless of how long it’s been. Your marriage will go through many phases that you’ll celebrate. Why not celebrate the one that started it all? Go crazy and celebrate to the fullest if that’s what you want to do!
Happy Anniversary, Brad. You’ve blessed my heart for 8 magical years.
“Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty thru good times and bad. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. Love is content with the present; it hopes for the future and it doesn’t brood over the past. It is the day-in and out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories and common goals.” – Ann Landers
Do you/will you celebrate your dating anniversary? I’d love to know your thoughts below.